About Men For the ladies (Guys this also applies to you too)

After a forum in my Uni for the male species it dawned on me to spill out a few details that we all seem to forget.
There is this thought that guys (the male species) has a problem or issues with showing and expressing emotions or we just I dont know dont feel.Well ummmmm. . . . . WRONG.Here is the thing from time memorial we are breed to be warriors,providers,fear nothing BUT intimacy.Lets face it especially in our collectivistic cultures and societies.The men are made to think crying is weak or showing or deep emotions is womanly.We grow up with these thoughts and conceptions.With time they harden,deepen and eventually end up being intergrated into our very persona.It becomes us to be macho and show this hard exterior even when we are crumbling and breaking on the inside.
And the really messed up part especially with our generation is that if you do show your emotions,let yourself be vulnerable and sensitive then you are either called Gay,get screwed over or are considered not man enough.Regardless of the exposure we get out of the house its what we learn from those men closest to us (i.e. in our family) that has the earliest and at the most profound effect on us.Our fathers,brothers and uncles that inevitably will mold us or are the examples of the men we are to grow into.But it doesnt mean that just because they are our idols that they are positive ones.These older men grew up in houses where their men figures didnt hug them,tell them they loved them,showed them affection or taught them how to treat and express their feelings to the opposite sex.And thus that gets passed down from generation to generation.Im not justifying how some of my species is or act but ladies Im just saying that before you point fingers and generalise the actions of one to the whole species you should maybe think about it why it is he is as is.Hey if he is genuinely an asshole you drop his ass like a bad habit.Im just saying that at times guy pretend to be dumbfcuks because they scared,dont know how or what to do with how they feel or worse run away from intimacy as I said earlier.We really arent taught what intimacy is or how to even show it.Im just saying my dear brothers that it ISNT sex.And worst part most of us think or see it that way.The best way and I think the only way to change the perception or view since its cause of our own stupid actions and words that end up in the females thinking or believing that we are the douche bags that we are.We need to start talking and expressing how we feel.If the woman thinks of you badly cause you told her of your insecurities and fears then she aint woth your time.A real woman told me that a man who can shed a tear and lean on her shoulder means more than all the presents,chocolates and flowers that you can ever get her.Oh and thats another thing.Getting gifts and all that is all good but dont over do it.Quality is better than quantity.An hour with your lady just sitting down the two of you talking and just being together will mean more than those flowers you keep sending everyweek to buy her off.Talk to your women.Open up to them if they dont appreciate it then bail and a real woman wouldnt make you feel bad about it.On the contrary behind every great man stands a woman.You dont believe me?Think of it this way Superman being all powerful and mighty had a weakness.Kryptonite isnt it?But regardless of how messed up he got it wasnt the Sun that gave him his drive to battle evil but it was always his love for Louis Lane.Samething with Spiderman or the Hulk.Even in the movies there is always that one woman.Be it mother,wife or daughter.We can be as hard as diamonds but in the end our women makes us invincible and gives us the support we need when we have fallen so we may rise up and conquer all.So talk to the women and women listen and dont pre judge.Find out why it is that men may act like boys or why it is we ended up the way we did.If the guy wont tell you then his boys or girls will let you know (provided you good with them).
I say this to the ladies not all guys are the same judge eachone on their own.Dont carry luggage with you and make him pay for shit that ain his fault and please just cause your girlfriends may have ended up with a few shitty guys dont mean that you will to.
LADIES AND GENTS.The point is judge and get to know the guy/girl themselves.Dont bring any misconception or prejudices from previous encounters or situations.I know its hard believe me I speak from experience but if you truely want things to work out well then you may have to just close your eyes,hold your breathe and plunge into that cold icy water and just hope,pray and make sure you did your best so as not to drown.
Think about it
Jah Bless